Lessons I Learned After Graduation

I can’t just fucking believe that it’s been over a year since your awesomeness graduated from college. Is it really been a year? Grabe, parang kahapon lang. I can still remember how happy and ecstatic I was that day. I cannot explain that amazing feeling I felt. It was surreal as it can get. And seeing my mom displaying her “i-am-so-proud-of-my-son” smile, it was just priceless. 

When I was on stage, I kept my feet from dancing. Of course, I don`t want to ruin the solemnity of the occasion. Plus, ayaw ko ding mabansagang “The Dancing Graduate”. Hahaha. Parang traffic enforcer lang. 

But months after that, I became a mess. A TOTAL MESS. I came in and out of post-college depression. The last quarter of 2011 was just depressing. I don’t know the direction where I’m headed to. I’ve felt so unfocused with what I wanted to do in life. Probably, unemployment and being broken-hearted does that to some people. Haha. But it was on the 4 months of self-struggle and depression, I learned valuable lessons in life. Let me share some ~

Lesson # 1: A dream is a hope that never sleeps. You know how they always say “pursue your dreams”. That’s easier said than done. But really, you just gotta do it. If you failed, try again. Nothing in the world is easy. Work hard and never quit.

Lesson # 2: Shit happens. Just when you think you’re having this perfect life then something will come along to prove you’re wrong. Life is not always peaches and cream baby. And that’s the sad reality. Hindi pwedeng lagi kang nasa taas. Sometimes you need to experience hiccups to stay real, to be humble. No matter how much you plan and prepare, nothing in life is guaranteed. Things can change in a heartbeat and you need to prepare for that eventuality.

Lesson # 3: It’s not how you fall. It’s how you bounce back. ‘Di titigil ang mundo sa pag-inog dahil lang sa nadapa ka. And hindi hihintayin ng mundo ang muli mong pagbangon. What you need to do is pick yourself up and dust yourself off, move and try to make a better life for yourself. Because that’s what a fighter do. We move forward and we keep on fighting.

Lesson # 4: Happiness comes to those who seek it. Choosing happiness is a choice. Happiness doesn’t just happen. It’s not an accident, it isn’t a gift. Happiness is up to you. You can choose to be happy instead of choosing to sit in a corner and wait for it to fall in your lap. Happiness is called upon and cultivated.


Lesson # 5: If there’s one lesson I learned (or probably, relearned) – and I wish I could tell this to everyone- is that “Never doubt yourself”. I’ll admit that I feel mediocre most of the time. Not good, always trailing behind someone. Pero those months of depression made me realize that: Sino pa bang magtitiwala sa sarili ko kundi ako rin? If nobody wants to lift my chair for me then I’ll lift it myself. Or else nobody will know how much I worth. So I’m telling you now, no matter what other people say, no matter how others made you feel, never ever doubt yourself. If you believe in yourself, you will succeed far more than you will ever fail. 

I have to admit that my first post-graduate year wasn’t easy. It was rough, in fact. But because of all the adversities that happened to me, I am much stronger and wiser than I ever thought I could be. I think learning to deal with these things taught me true responsibility and unexpectedly, honor and what true manhood is.


Hoobert the Awesome said...

Please refrain yourself from laughing.

Mas mukha yata `tong vanity post than inspirational post. Lol.

McRICH said...

Welcome to the REAL world, but i know you'd be much tougher as you face each challenges ahead, and that is what you call LIVING!

Aencille said...

Ah, the famous post-college depression. I had that, too last year. Magkabatch pala tayo. :P

I like #1 and #4. Great insights Hoobert! :D

Batang Lakwatsero said...

haay, naexperience ko ngayon ang depresyon. haha. wala na akong pera panglakwatsa. ang hirap nga maging unemployed pagkatapos ng graduation.

hanep sa pictorial ah :)

iamjessiegarcia said...

i totally agree with what you've said. life can never be all wins. sooner or later, everyone will fall short at something important to them. that life is a road with unpredictable twists and unexpected tomorrows. but life is life....hahahaha (ang gulo ko!)

nice one! ^^

Orange Pulps ♥ said...

i will be a graduating student sa darating na pasukan, and reading this post made me think. hala. wag naman sana ako magkaganito. haha

but if that post-college depression comes my way, i know i have a blog post to reread soon. ^_^

jelai said...


I like that.

And you're also right that life isn't always peaches and cream, because if that's the case maybe we won't really be able to appreciate how delicious the peaches and cream are. Right baby? Nah, omit the maybe!

Yeah, I also agree that it's up to us to be happy. If we want to be happy, then no one forbid us to find it. Why wait, when we can chase it.

Lesson #6 should be - - -

Why bother retrospecting (though i'm not saying that you are in a retrospecting phase in this post), when we can always move forward. Life is a never ending story, and it's always up to us on how we are going to live it, chapter after chapter. :)

Good luck with your life. :)

jelai said...


Vanity as it is. Hehehe. But not too much, still not counted as a reason for us to be turned off. hahah.

Hoobert the Awesome said...

Yeah Kuya McRich! The real world is much more cruel than what I had imagine. Pero keri lang. Kiber kiber! (Haha, so gay!)

Ikaw na ang mabilis mag-comment. :)

Hoobert the Awesome said...

Really? I thought you`re younger than me Aencille. Kita mo nga naman.

Oo, dami nakakadanas niyan ngayon especially summer. Haha. Andaming bagong graduates.

Hoobert the Awesome said...

Hanap ka agad Ivan ng work para masaya. Para may budget ka for travels. Lakwatsero ka pa naman. Hoho. Deym! Nagka-Calaguas ka na pala. Inggit ako. Haha.

Hoobert the Awesome said...

Thanks Jessica for the comment & thanks for following me on Twitter. Ansaya!

Sometimes you win, sometimes you lose. A winner can`t have it all. Plus, sa movies nga ang bida nagpapabugbog muna then sa bandang huli, siya pa rin ang nagtatagumpay.

Remember, life is not a 100-meter dash. Life is a marathon.

Hoobert the Awesome said...

You will always be welcome here Orange Pulps! I will be so glad to be of help. Haha.

Pero masaya naman magkaron ng PCD. Maraming kang realizations. Maraming lessons. You`ll be wiser and stronger.

Hoobert the Awesome said...

I should add yours on my list. Haha. No I`m just kidding Jelai. Pero tama nga naman, you can`t bring back time so why bother retrospecting? It may piss us off but history is just that history. Dafuq! Haha.

Stop saying na natu-turn on ka sakin baka maniwala ako. Haha. JK. :)

Have a good day!

juneosidabenitez said...

Nag modeling ka na pala hoobert? lols..:|

chino said...

I felt the same way too. Dami din ako realizations and contemplations. That's life so you have to always look at things in a positive perspective.

Mitch said...

Nice goal and congrats, you were able to achieve what you've set for yourself. Brave enough to Never doubt yourself! Such a nice attitude na I want to exercise..

SunnyToast said...

crossing my fingers will your goals!

Life is a series of pulls back and forth. You want to do one thing, but you are bound to do something else:)

so goodluck!

eprilis said...

and this is exactly what i'm experiencing right now. Nakaka-depress pala maging jobless. But then, I keep reminding myself that God has a purpose for me. Then somehow, I feel hopeful. :)