4.5.11

"Bakit wala ka pang girlfriend?"

As a 19 year-old guy that has been single for all my life (but 11 days), I know this question too well. I've been asked by this question a thousand times already and you cannot escape it especially when in the company of your friends who are either nosy and pesky or attempting to be a matchmaker. Depending on the tone used, it's easy to know if it's asked out of curiosity or just simply bitching you out.

The stereotype of a single guy (and gal too!) considering the age (I'm freaking 19 years old, repeat, nineteeeeeeeen) is that they are pangit and deprived. Hahaha! I can't help but laugh. It never crossed my mind that I am pangit, never, because I'm not. (^-^) And never did I felt that I am deprived. At least when you are single, you are saved from the perpetual cheesiness and mushiness of this world. And besides I'm enjoying the status I have now. When I wake up in the morning, I'm not obliged to call someone. I can go wherever I want and I can be with anybody. I'm also a quite jealous person so I am saved from worrying about where she goes after school or who she's seeing.

But despite of these, I want to experience falling in love again like what I've experienced million years ago. But I am still waiting for the perfect soulmate and she hasn't appeared yet. Of course, I also want to get married and have my own happy family as much as everyone does. Those who said otherwise are sadly misinformed.

My mom always ask me the question "when will you get married?" everytime we are having this mom-son bonding moments. (I find it weird because Mama is not the kind of mother that will meddle in her son's lovelife. Never.) I always give her my honest and consistent answer: 37. My mom would always give me that same puzzled look as in "37? Ang tanda mo naman yata nun". Why mom? Do you want me to marry a girl, fuck her and have 8 kids to feed by the age of 25? XD

Why 37? I think by that time I have my career established, I have a house and I have traveled a lot. I believe it is important for me to experience these things while I'm still single so that I don't have any regrets later on in life. When you are already tied-down (words alone sent shiver into my spine), it is difficult to do something or go somewhere or take long periods of time yourself.

As cliche as it may sound but "ang pagpapakasal ay hindi parang kaning isusubo at iluluwa kapag napaso". Marriage is not a game, it's a life-long promise. It is about findind the right person, at the right time and under the same circumstances. Though I think that 37 is the right age for me to marry, there is no perfect age in marriage. It simply depends on your being mature enough to be able to make that full commitment to another person. And then you find that another person who can share that promise to you. (That's the hardest part IMO) And that could hit at any age.

But now I'm still young, I haven't turned 20 yet. (I'll be turning 2o this 17th of May. I'm accepting gifts as early as now). Let me just enjoy the moment and just take it sloooooooow.

16 comments:

poot said...

I'm back in Pampanga. My Cebu experience is a blast. I really had a lot of fun. And not to mention, it was Lechon de Cebu overload. XD

I'll do the story-telling of the wedding some other time. I'm still waiting for the pictures.

Jhiegzh said...

LOLs..37? Woaaaaaaaah! super naman! Pero ako...NVM! Anyways, same lang din tau, magpapakasal ako in time na ready na ako at steady na ung income...Gus2 kong maranasan ng aking mga future anaks ang naransan ko with my parents...

geb0i said...

haha. sobrang nakarelate ako sa post mo. haha. 20 na kasi ko. yan namiss ko blogging dahil jan. babalik na ko soon. lels. more power sayo poot.

ANIMUS said...

When we're in HS, I never thought of marrying someone. Haha. (I guess you already figured out the reason) Now, I am positive of getting married but not this year. lol. It would feel good to build my own family and live a happy life with someone I love. Ayt?

Dani said...

Ako, I plan to marry at 30. If there's someone to marry, that is. Hahaha. Minsan nga iniisip ko sa sarili ko, sana wag muna dumating yung "soulmate" ko until I'm 25. Madami pa akong gustong gawin and truth be told, being with someone will sometimes hold you down. I should know. :))

kristian said...

hahaha. Buti nalang at di ganyan ka ususero/usesera mga friends. alam din naman nila kasi na may gusto akong isang tao noon pero basta long story.

Kakatawa naman yang moments wid da mother. Ako pag tinatanong ako, iniiba ko kaagad usapan. haha

poot said...

Yeah, yeah. 37 is my target pero I my plans can change if and only if, darating ng mas maaga si Ms. Right. Pero sana 'wag muna. Hahaha.

Thanks Kuya Jose. Hep hep. Walang kokontra, mas matanda ka po sa akin. XD

poot said...

Yun yun e. Bumalik ka na kasi Pareng Gervs sa pagba-blog. Miss ka na namin. And besdides, inaamag na ang blog mo. Hehehe. :)))

poot said...

Oh come on Joseph. Ang aga naman yata even if we say next year ka pa magpapakasal. We are just on our early 20s. I don't think its an ideal age for marriage.

PS. Sinong girlfriend mo?

poot said...

That's the hardest part Ate Dani. To find our soulmates. Hahaha. Pero darating at darating din yan kasi kapag di siya dumating, kawalan niya yun. XD

poot said...

Ako naman, I don't change the topic. Sinasakyan ko lang si Mama hanggang siya na ang sumuko & tumigil sa pagtatanong sakin. Hahaha.

Thanks Kristian. Di ako nakadaan sa Negros. Di pwede. :)))

ANIMUS said...

Haha. Time is too short for me Jub. You wont understand. :)

ka bute said...

i totally agree! XD

Anatoly said...

I agree too! Keep it up!

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Xtian said...

Oi, poot! I tagged you in this post: HERE!

krn said...

hmm.. the girl will be so lucky. :D